The story that I'm going to write is a true story. Nothing added to spice things up. Before I start, I would like to thank god for giving me a great parents and siblings ( altho sometime they ****) but not everyone has it.
She was adopted when she was small. At age of 16 she had been forced married to a guy that she barely know. Its started with rumour saying that she had slept with that guy therefore her mom (mengelabah gila) straight away belive the rumour(typical kampung person) without asking and knowing the truth. Because she was still young at that age, she dare not to fight her mom. But now she is an adult and know which is good and which is bad. She has her own right to determine her life. She divorced with 3 kids and her kids staying with her husband. She decided to move out of her hometown because she can't stand being harres with her ex husband and her mom who keep on pushing her to get back with him. She must has a reason why she doesnt want to. People dont live her life so people do not know the suffer that she had been through the past 12 years in her marriage life.
After the divorced she move to Kuala Lumpur and trying to start a new life over. She find job and start to raise money on her own. Unfortunately, her mom doesn't like it at all because she did not obey her wish. She really want her to get back together with her ex and her mom done everything to make her life suffer. Including seeing 'BOMOH' for so many times. How do I know that? One day, she received a call from a USTAZ saying 'kita pakai ayat al-quran je. semua berasaskan al-quran' 'bila nk balik kampung? datang la ke jerantut.' From there, I smell something fishy. I witness these with my own two ears. It was switch on to loudspeaker when we received the called.
Sometimes people can say whatever they like without knowing the real situation. Before her father's death, she always went back to her hometown for visiting his father only. She always open her heart out with his father and suprisingly her father agreed with her actions. He knows more than anyone. Even he said that she needs to get out if not she will be end up like him. **There is more to this part but it will be a sensitive issue if they really want to know the truth**. So when she decided to leaved, she has his father permission. It is not easy for her to leave her dad just like that but she has too. She can't stand being nagged all the day. There's nothing that she done is right.
What do you think her life would be like staying KL? She is happy but her ex disturb her like hell. I read all those message and even the guy sms me thought that i will be supporting him. He is damn stupid. He is so damn wrong. I might be young but i'm not an idiot. Woman has their own rights so once you divorced you have your space. 'well let's put it this way "the guy cant live without her"..hahahaa...
**Baru dia tahu. Selama ni dia buat perempuan tu macam kuli batak. Ikut suka nak pukul orang tuh. Tak pernah nak rasa kesian. Nasib baik anak - anak dia tak cacat. Masa pregnant ada pernah dia amik berat ker? Biarkan orang tuh bawak moto time2 sarat camtuh dengan tak sihat nya. Pastu bila orang tuh accident nasib baik tak keguguran. Untung kandungan dia kuat.**
Then, a shocked news was received early in the morning. Her father passed away. She went back home. Once arrived everyone start to asking her. It was like paparazzi going crazy for the info. I know how does it feel when we lost someone but I don't know people will go to that extend.
**Bila kita kata kita redha tetapi kenapa hakikat nya macam tak redha?**
You can grieve but not crying like an absent-minded.
**Bukan ke org kata kalau org meninggal kita tak patut melalak. Selalu nya kalau org melalak ni dia ada buat salah dengan si mati**
Then, after the pengebumian everyone start shooting her. As if her dad passed away because of her. I thought they always said that "Ajal dan maut di tangan Tuhan. Kalau dah sampai masa dia akan pergi" But in this case why the phrase wasn't apply. If we use the theory of "ayah dia worried bout her then sampai dia meninggal". It is not relevant at all. Let's applied the theory into below scenario.
Scenario1 -> high school fresh graduate and went to study abroad. With her father permission, she went there. Obviously, not only her dad but he rmom too will worried about her but the end result is not death right? compare to the age facts that in this case she is just 18 and the other is 28..
Scenario 2--> 22 years old girl travel to a place which is far from her home town and trying to survive. She work and get paid for it. Her parent will worried about her but they won't die bcoz of it.. If Allah says its their time then accept it. Don't blame for nothing. Same goes for her. She is 28 and wanted to build a new life. She want to get out of her life and search for a new one. If she stay at same place what can she do. She had her dad's permission and why people always spread the false facts (Continue the pengebumian part)
(IN MY OPINION) For me crying lebih-lebih masa orang meninggal ni tak patut. Sampai dekat kubur pun buat macam tuh. Masa my mom dulu, tak pun macam tuh. Sedih itu pasti tapi not to that extreme extend. **
So, almost everyone said that she doesn't feel sad at all. Sebenarnya ramai orang tak tahu. Pemergian bapanya bermaksud pemergian dia juga. Selama ni hanya bapanya saja yang protect dia dan tahu apa yang sebenarnya sakit dia, derita dia dan merananya hidup dia. Even aku sendiri pun mengaku aku hanya mendengar riintihan dia tetapi tidak melihatnya sebelum ini. Bila sekarang aku sendiri menyaksikan nya. Aku rasa bersyukur dengan apa yang aku ada(walaupun kekadang tuh ada gak tak puas aty). Orang juga sebelum ni tak pernah pun nak amik tahu hidup dia tetapi tiba-tiba sekarang semua nak interfere. Aku pun tak pernah interfere even my family too. If she asked opinion from me, I gived her mine but it is up to her what she wants. "Sedangkan bapa dia pernah berkata kalau awak duduk sini nanti awak jadi macam abah. Apa maksudnya?"
So sekarang ni she trying to fixed her life puzzled yang agak bercelaru. Peole always said that family support is important but she never got once. So that's why i tried to support her decision but depends on what is her decision. I'm not that dumb so I know. Even she always kena from me bila dia buat decision yang salah. Biar dia belajar apa erti kehidupan. Dia ingin rasa penat lelah mencari duit. We are allowed to interfere bila jalan yang dia ambil adalah salah.
(cerita ini berdasarkan apa yang telah saya lihat dan dengar dengan telinga saya sendiri.bukan yang direka atau tiada tambah perisa pun kat dalam ni. rasa sup kosong jer)..
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